Doreen Richard's Story

What were the steps leading up to your diagnosis?

I had pain and knots in my back for many years. I would be sent for physical therapy and get worse. Finally, I reached the point where I had problems lifting lightweight things, including my newborn grandson! After seeing many doctors, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and I already had degenerative disk disease! At least there was finally a name for what I had, years after it all started.

What lifestyle changes have you needed to make?

I have to do things at my own pace as well as accept help around the house. Vacuuming, washing the floors, seasonal cleaning, etc. really hurts. If I can't keep plans, then understand or too bad! Sometimes I need a cane, bed sheets will make me cry. I meditate now to help relax as much as possible. I have a third grandchild on the way and I refuse not to enjoy the baby or my two grandsons! Their laughter, kisses and gentle hugs, yes, they know to be gentle with Grandma! It all means so much to me and gives me reason to push on! Never give up and never say never!

What accomplishment are you proud of?

Crocheting for my grandchildren, gardening at a table, walking as much as I can even if it’s only for a short distance sometimes. I'll try and do as much as my body allows and I won't just give up!

Who has been there for you? How?

My family and closest friends, they believe I'm in a lot of pain and tired most of the time. They help me when I ask for help to go someplace and help me when I can't do something due to my pain or need a hand; they comfort me when I want to give up; and they love me!

What's your advice to someone else living with Fibromyalgia?

Enjoy your good days. On those days that you just cry in pain, think of those who are suffering from something worse than you! Find someone who understands and will listen when you need to talk, cry or even laugh at yourself! You're not alone. Remember that! Many of us are feeling the same!

Is there anything else we should know?

There are good days, you just may need to keep track! A good friend will always believe you! You're NOT alone! Gentle hugs, my friend.